Do you over-apologise? Therapist shares tips on how to stop

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Recognise the root cause:

We need to work on self-awareness and try to dig deeper and find the reasons why we tend to over-apologise. Be it insecurity or fear of conflict or a need for validation – when we know the root cause of this habit, we can address it in a better way.

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Replace apologies with appreciation:

Instead of apologising for every small thing, we can replace it with appreciation for their patience and perseverence for dealing with the situation.

Pause and reflect:

Every situation does not need an apology. Before we instantly apologise for something, we can take a pause and try to understand if there is an alternate way of communicating the emotions in the situation.

Rephrase the statement:

Each statement should not sound like an apology – this demeans our own value. We can try to rephrase the statement to communicate our needs in a better way.

Set boundaries:

We need not apologise for asserting our needs and expectations. When we do that, we end up losing our value. We should set boundaries about ourselves and prioritise our needs and wants and should be absolutely unapologetic about it.